Most people come to a tarot reader because they are seeking clarity in their lives.
But there may be times when a reading won’t give you the answers you are looking for. Is it because the reader sucked – or is it you?
In some cases a reader may indeed lack talent or perhaps have trouble making a connection to you but there are some measures you can take to get the most out of your tarot reading. And it begins with CLARITY on your part.
Here’s what you need to do before you walk in the door and expect to be dazzled:
1.Know what kind of reading you want. There are many different approaches to tarot. Some offer straight up predictions, some are therapeutic, some can be interactive and there are those who are only about entertainment. Find a style that appeals to you and then begin searching for a reader who fits the bill.
2.Pick a reader who is compatible with your energy because simply put, no reader can read for everyone. A few tips for finding the right reader:
A. You can go by word of mouth but a word of caution: what someone considers a “good reading” may not be your cup of tea. Be sure to ask details about what they liked or didn’t like about the reading.
B. If they have a website, read it carefully to see if you can get a feel for their personality. Know their guidelines so you can honor their boundaries (ex: some readers do not answer questions about other people).
C. Contact the reader directly and ask questions about their methods and policies. If you feel comfortable, it’s probably a good sign that you will be compatible. (In my opinion, this is the best barometer for making your decision.)
3.Get in the right mindset. Approach your reading with openness. If you are coming in with a skeptical “prove it to me” attitude, you are putting your reader in a hostile and defensive position which is never conducive for a good reading. Also, never ever get a reading if you are anxious or hysterical. A desperate frame of mind will only hear what they want to hear, for good or for ill.
4.Write down your questions before you come. There is nothing worse than walking out the door and forgetting the “big question” you wanted to ask. Having a list keeps you focused and organized and insures you get the important questions answered.
5.Tape your reading. This allows you to focus on the reading rather than taking notes. Plus it’s handy for reflecting later. (For the record, I prefer taking notes when I get a reading as I know I will never listen to a recording but that’s just me.)
6.Don’t be vague. Ask specific questions. Be direct and to the point. Also, be sure to ask questions that empower your situation (ex: “What can I do to achieve _______?”)And please, resist the urge to “test” your reader by dragging a red herring across the question. An honest request to the universe creates honest, clear answers.
7.Give time for things to percolate. Avoid the temptation to go back and revisit the reading without allowing enough time to pass. Coming in and hammering the same question over and over only leads to a frustrated reader and mixed messages. (My cards get very snotty when people are aggressively asking the same questions too often.)
In any service oriented business (yes, tarot reading is one), it is imperative that you be a good consumer. If you’ve done your homework, you will be able to approach your reading with trust, openness and a clear agenda. And that is the perfect recipe for a great tarot reading.